Thursday, February 8. 2007Make your woman happy
Let me start by saying that many people will not agree with what I'm about to write. I'm about to make certain assumptions and I'm going to make some generalizations, which might seem to be ridiculous and even outrageous. In any case, I wanted to share some of my thoughts and observations. The topic in itself is a major branch in psychology. I'm not going to go too deep so that my readers won't get too bored. I will not talk about how to start a new relationship or how to attract women. In fact, I'm assuming you are a man in a relationship with a woman and that you care about how your woman feels.
First of all, I'm going to assume that the way people lived millions of years ago is still deeply in us now. As an example, our bodies are still telling our brain to prefer the meal with the more calories rather than a meal with little or no calories. The reason is that during early stages of human development human bodies never knew when the next meal was going to be. That was why human body developed the certain taste for more-calorie meals. So, even now a fat juicy hamburger or a pizza full of meat with chunks of fat still tastes better than some green salad. Similarly, our brains still carry most of the things developed over millions of years in its core. Some of these properties are overridden by our environments we currently live in. But in the core of our brains we are still those same human beings we have been for millions of years. So, based on what I just said, I'm going to make further assumptions about women(since the article is about women). I'm going to assume that women today, just like women a long time ago, still respond to the following characteristics of men: - physical characteristics. In its basic form, it is physical strength and overall health of the man's body. - intelligence. Being(or seeming) smarter that most other men. Ability to solve potential problems for the entire family. Having wisdom to assist in making decisions to help avoiding fatal mistakes. These aspects were always important because the well-being of the family strongly depended on them. If the man is physically not strong enough, he would not be able to hunt successfully and the family might not have anything to eat. And the mental aspect was also very important because certain decisions that men had to make could prevent or lead to fatalities in the future. For example, one of such decision was where and how to setup a shelter. In addition to all these, subconsciously women have always been selecting men based on their desires for their future offsprings. Since women always wanted their babies to be healthy and smart(which will make their lives easier in the future), they were trying to look for these features in potential fathers of future babies. That brings us to the following: almost every woman is family oriented. It is not enough to care about women, it is also very important to have family in mind. Otherwise your woman will never be 100% happy. I only mentioned a couple of egoistic desires that women have always had when selecting a man. In addition to physical and mental strength to be passed on to children, women have always been looking for certain features in men to make sure that the life together with a certain man would potentially bring happiness. One side of happiness is prosperity(enough money, food etc), another side is emotional side. As an example, a woman prefers men with sense of humor, because this particular feature will make her future life not so boring. In addition, a woman prefers a man with a gentle(emotional) side, so that they would be able to "speak the same language". Up till now, everything sounds pretty easy, because we have been looking at just the feminine side of a woman. I have not, however, touched another very important side of a woman. This is the side that all human beings have. People are getting used to something, which is good, too quickly. Over time, what used to seem good and used to bring joy and happiness, is losing its value. That is true in every aspect of human lives. For example, you always wanted to buy a big screen TV. Time comes and you buy it. At first, you feel great, you have finally gotten something you have wanted for a long time. After a year, though, you don't feel the same amount of joy. In order to remind yourself how much you appreciate the TV, you need to lose it, spend some time without it and then get it back, or, at least, you need to feel that you are about to lose it. This is a very important point and I will later explain why. Another thing to keep in mind is that any relationship between human beings is all about respect. You must make it so your woman respects you. Respect comes from your actions. It is very critical for a man to be respected by his woman. That's where a man needs all his emotional strength. He must stick to his principles and stick to his word. He must show to the woman that he has a very good control of his own body and mind. And while it is not easy to achieve, this feature is a must for any man. That is where that feeling of being protected comes from. If your word is not just a collection of sounds but an actual statement by which you will act, all you need to do to make your woman feel protected is tell her that she will be. Here is one more thing to remember. A woman is happy when she feels herself as a woman. Her feminine side must always be encouraged and appreciated. That is why she must be constantly reminded of her strong feminine side. Telling how feminine(beautiful, attractive, sexy etc) she is, affects your woman in a positive way. And here is something super important. I can not stress enough how important it is. Spend time with your woman. In fact, consider spending all of your available time with her. What women really respond to is your attention and time spent together. Forget about "privacy time" and stuff like that, if you want her happy - become one with her. Do everything together - cook, do dishes after, go to get groceries etc. You don't even have to necessarily do the same thing she is doing, just be there with her. So far, I have been talking mostly about emotional things. Physical side of things is very very important. We all like being hugged in the early years of our lives. Over time, men most grow more and more indifferent to touch but with women it is different. Hugging and kissing your woman is very important. In fact, the more you do it, the better she feels. First of all, this is yet another form of protection. In this case it is totally physical. When your woman feels wrapped in your body she feel safe. Secondly, women are just like children, they just love being hugged as a kids do. Some may have grown to be indifferent, but deep inside, they are still little girls longing to be hugged. Why would men want to make their women happy? Just like I explained in one of my previous articles, the mood in the family totally depends on the woman. To be exact, the mood ultimately depends on how the woman feels about herself and the whole emotional health in the family, which in turn depends on how the man in the family treats his woman. So, let me now combine everything I've been saying so far. The man must be physically and mentally healthy, that's a must. But that is not everything. A man must be not just be healthy, he should also be strong both physically and mentally. That is what women pick up on. But being is not enough. Demonstrating strength is very important. Just like I explained in my previous article, a good man must be strong on the side facing outward and must be gentle facing inward. That means that the woman sees the gentle side of the man. Just like I explained above, subconsciously over time the woman might start losing appreciation for the man and might start acting accordingly. That is why demonstrating strength is important. In this case, it is demonstrating the fact that the woman could lose the man if the man is not being appreciated for what he is doing for the woman. What that really means is that the man should sometimes show his other side to the woman. Just like in the example with the TV above, that usually helps in reminding the woman how precious her man really is. So far, it may sound like the woman is in disadvantage. That is not entirely correct. It all depends on how the man really cares. I am now talking about the inner side of the man. There is one very strong emotion that women like to express: care. They like caring about someone. What they like even more than caring is when they are being appreciated for that by men. And that is how they become happy. Let them care about you, and show them your appreciation. It is that simple. So, here is the formula: in order to make your woman happy make her feel protected from the outside world, let her care about you and make her see that it is appreciated. If needed, once in a while you should remind her about both of your sides(outer and inner), so that she would appreciate what you are doing for her. And make her feel unique. Your gentle side is for her only. All your time is hers and all her time is yours. Show your appreciation by hugging her as much as possible. But only because she is so special to you. Don't treat anybody else like that. That feeling of exclusivity will make your woman appreciate you even more. Be strong emotionally - stick to your principles, stick to your word. Spend as much time with her as possible and tell her that you appreciate her as a woman, indeed, she is your woman. Trackbacks
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